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Who is Ghastly Girl?
So you are most likely here because you want to know just who it is you are reading about on this site. I don’t blame you! One of the worst things in the world of blogging (in my opinion, at least) is a lack of transparency. You definitely won’t find that here! I am a 37-year-old mom of two and military spouse living just outside of Little Rock, Arkansas.
I am a lover of cats, unicorns, and many facets of geekdom such as gaming (tabletop and console…no computer games apart from The Sims. I don’t have the hand-eye coordination for that lol) Most days you will find me working on a fun new recipe or at least trying to work on an awesome craft I’ve stumbled across somewhere. I refuse to take anything too seriously and live for moments of joy and positivity.
I have grown to have a somewhat hippy heart and gypsy soul clothed in gothic style. I am tattooed with the scars and triumphs of my personal history and a believer that our past makes us who we are. I have an adventurer’s spirit and consider myself to be a lifelong learner and lover of science, anthropology, history, and many other things.
Most of my life has been inspired by my grandmother and I do my best to live in her honor. She was an amazing woman who taught me frugal living, love of others, and a sense of responsibility to make the world a better place even if in small ways. As a special needs mom, she was an inspiration to me as well to know that doing the best we can and doing everything with love is the best we can do. My uncle was deprived of oxygen at birth because he was a very large baby and it was the 1950’s (before doctors really did very may C-sections for that type of thing) because of this he lived a life that needed a little extra help here and there. Her devotion to ensuring that he had the best life possible has been an endless source of inspiration for life with my own daughter who has special needs.
I have lived with mental illness all of my life. However, I wasn’t always aware that this is what made me a little different than everyone else. I lived the first 18 years or so thinking that I was just weird or bad in some way. It wasn’t until my 30’s that I fully began to grasp the reasons why I did things the way I did.
When I was younger, my mother would become very angry with me and threaten to drop me off at a mental institution more times than I can count. Now that I am older I realize that not only was this an empty threat (that may have actually helped) but that she herself most likely had some issues that needed to be dealt with.
For much of my life, my mental health problems were seen as some sort of family embarrassment. They weren’t handled at a younger age because there was some sense of shame or “our family doesn’t have this type of thing”. Now that I have a daughter of my own who has a mental illness I have found myself to be a strong advocate in early diagnosis and support for women and girls of all ages who have a mental illness.
You can read more about my struggles with Bipolar Disorder here and my struggles with Borderline Personality Disorder here. Later in life, I had the diagnoses of PTSD and Adult ADHD added to the list. Not only was I born with a predisposition to anxiety, depression, and poor self image because of Bipolar Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder but struggles in my life such as living with a Narcissist, losing a boyfriend and dear friend in high school, losing a child in my second trimester of pregnancy and nearly losing my son a year later, and surviving sexual assault have added to this. I hope to be as open as possible about each of these issues to give support and hope to others who live with them.
I am a firm believer in ending the stigma of mental health issues and helping women of all ages find the support they need to live the best life possible.
In 2015 I began suffering from blinding migraines, chronic pain, extreme fatigue, and a variety of other strange maladies At the time I was working as a firefighter and EMT. I was also going to school to become a practical nurse. I was living a life I loved in service to others. However, it quickly became clear that my growing health issues were going to make this a life that was unsustainable for me.
I was diagnosed with chronic migraines, fibromyalgia, and a few other autoimmune issues that left me completely on hiatus for over two years. Not only was I going stir crazy having gone from a very active life to one in which I could barely make my way out of bed most days but I was also plagued with a sense of emptiness because I could no longer do what I loved best, which was helping those in need.
I made several changes in my life as I tried to adapt to this new way of living. I hope that through this site I can help others who are suddenly thrown into a life of chronic illness learn to deal with their “new normal” and move forward in a way that brings fulfillment back to their lives rather than the sinking feeling of being stuck that plagued me for so long.
Special Needs Homeschooling
As I had mentioned above I am a special needs mom. My daughter has several diagnoses including Autism Spectrum Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, and Oppositional Defiant Disorder. She suffers from serious sensory issues and poor self-image due to issues relating to people that have been brought on by her ASD diagnosis.
Over the years she has suffered bullying for being different. Children would throw bugs at her or egg her on just to get a reaction. We tried several years to work with the schools that she was in and find a solution that worked for her. Unfortunately, this wasn’t getting us anywhere.
We also found that the special needs classes in our district were severely lacking for children who have behavioral or social issues but no academic issues. Due to this, we decided to take the route to homeschool. It allowed my daughter the ability to work not only on grade level but far above in some subjects. It also allowed her the ability to have supervised social interactions in which there could be guidance if things went wrong.
We are major supporters of homeschooling because it allows children to focus on their interests, work on their strengths and weaknesses at their own level, and truly excel in ways that an education that is not individualized cannot provide.
I have been a lover of the paranormal and the bizarre since I was a young child. I have been able to sense ghosts since I was around 7 years old, and have had what I believe to be clairvoyant visions since I was in high school. I have no control of these and certainly cannot predict the future or any of that.
I had my first true paranormal experience at a friend’s house when I was around 10 years old. I have been hooked ever since and made it a life mission to learn as much as I can about investigation techniques, proper respect for the dead, and preservation of history.
Much of my work these days is focused on studying the history of ghost legends and urban legends across the United States. However, I have been part of active investigations across the globe and still work active investigations as the need arises. I am much more interested in the history that helped create ghosts but do still enjoy talking and interacting with them when the chance presents itself. You can learn more about my work in the paranormal field and my ghostly adventures on my sister site Ghastly Travels.
I hold very true to my Celtic roots and believe strongly in following the ways of my Irish and Welsh ancestors. This includes their pagan religious practices. I consider myself to be a solitary eclectic witch with a focus on Celtic paganism. Most of the deities I follow are Celtic in nature. However, I do follow many concepts from Buddhism as well.
I believe that every religious path in the world has something to offer and I enjoy learning as much as I can about world religion and adopting positive affirmations and practices from several.
I believe strongly in nonviolence and the power of positivity. I respect nature and all of the things that it brings to us.
When it comes to my children I want to give them the opportunity to learn as much as they can about world religion through travel and varied cultural experiences. They are free to make their own choices when it comes to what speaks to them, and I am a firm believer that spirituality should be a very personal experience. While I hope to guide them in a path of nonviolence and positivity I also hope to give them the freedom and tools to choose a path that best fits their life.
Military Wife Life
I have been a USAF wife for 12 years. This has brought us on a path of many moves, many deployments, many long nights wondering if everything is ok. Our children have had many holidays without their dad, and I have had to learn how to do things as a single mother more times than I would have preferred.
There is no denying that life as a military wife can be a tough one. There is a constant need to tailor your schedule to the demands of the military, a sense of never being settled anywhere, and a variety of other adjustments.
However, I am eternally grateful for the opportunities that this life has afforded us such as living in a wide variety of amazing cultures. I am also eternally grateful for the sacrifices my husband has made to give our family a better life than we would have had by remaining in the small, failing town in Ohio that we grew up in.
Anything But a Perfectionist
I love to experiment in the kitchen and the craft room. One thing you won’t find here is Pinterest perfect projects. I am definitely always a learner and always up for a fun challenge. However, I love to include my children and hate to fake perfection. You will find a wide variety of recipes, projects, and more on our site. However, they will definitely run the gambit from awesome to complete failures. I think far too often in the blogging world there is this feeling that everything has to be perfect. That kids never get messy, that things don’t have a little oops here and there, or that nobody makes mistakes.
Mistakes make us who we are and failures can make some of the greatest learning experiences. For this reason, we happily include them in our tutorials and recipes in hopes that others can learn from our errors. We also just enjoy keeping it real!
Learn About Blogging
Blogging, if nothing else, is a massive learning experience. I would encourage anyone who would like to learn more about our blogging adventure and the things I have learned along the way to visit our Blogging 101 tab. You will find all kinds of information from setting up your blog to maintaining a schedule that won’t drive you crazy or cause blogger burnout. Of course, you can also find information on monetizing a blog!
Make sure you grab our Blog Planning Workbook to help you get started and stay on track, but we always welcome questions from would be bloggers and would love to help you get started or grow!
Work With Us!
Are you interested in working with us as a sponsor, guest posting, or even holding a giveaway through our site? We offer a wide variety of options for working with Ghastly Girl. You can find more information on this and a copy of our media kit on our Work With Us page. However, we always welcome email inquiries and will be happy to work out a plan that works for everyone!